How can you heal after a breakup? To actually get over the end of a relationship, you need to treat yourself with love and kindness. You should forgive yourself, let yourself experience emotions, and work through them properly, Now let’s begin.
1.The Right Mindset
Many people seek relationships at the lowest points in their lives. When you’re feeling sad, lonely or anxious, you may crave the company of someone special.
Finding a girlfriend may sound like the answer to all your problems, but you should never enter a relationship at rock bottom. Why? Well, because you’re not seeking a relationship for the right reasons. Deep down, you may be searching for someone to bear your emotional burden. Someone who can make your insecurity or lone disappear, but a girlfriend isn’t going to magically cure your low. Self-esteem not only is that a toxic expectation for any relationship, but it’s also an emotional burden that no one should place on their partner. So if you want a girlfriend, then take some time to improve yourself. Be the most capable and confident version of yourself that you can be.
If you bring your best self to the table, you stand a much better chance of finding a happy, healthy, and positive relationship.
2. Romantic Preferences
When you’re desperate to find a girlfriend, your standards distort in unhealthy ways. Instead of choosing someone who aligns with your values, you date, the first person who pays you any attention.
When you don’t receive that attention, you may become bitter and blame the women you meet instead of examining why you’re struggling to make a strong impression. Well, here’s the problem that many guys face you say, I wanna find a girlfriend, but you have no idea what kind of partner that you’re looking for.
The very few guys who ask themselves, this question never examine their preferences beyond physical features. But there’s so much more to any relationship than physical attraction. Think about common interests, communication styles, family backgrounds, and fundamental values. All of these things impact the health and success of your relationship, that they also make you more attractive to the kinds of women you would actually date.
Just think about it this way. Would you rather attract a little bit of attention from every woman you. Or a lot of attention from a very small percentage. In other words, you don’t need to attract every woman on the planet. If you know, what kind of partner that you’re looking for, their preferences should be the only preferences that matter to you.
3. Lifestyle lndependence
Now, before you get into a relationship, take a hard look at the life you currently live. Many people think they’re ready for a relationship when the truth is they barely have their lives under control. For example, many guys think they can be an emotional rock for another person.
But how often do you reflect on or consider your own emotions? A healthy relationship requires an array of characteristics that take time, patience and hard work to develop. You need to be independent, honest, and decisive. You need to be empathetic toward the people in your life and be vulnerable in return.
So before you enter the dating scene, think about the state your life is in. Are you realistically in a position to take a relationship seriously? It’s important that you make these decisions now because it’s going to get much harder down the road when other people’s feelings get involved, every decision becomes that much more complicated.
So make sure you have your life under control. If you’re stable, independent, and secure in your direction. Then you may be ready for a romantic commitment, but if you’re juggling big life altering questions, then your time may be better. Spent working on yourself.
4. Fear of Solitude
People who are afraid of being single enter relationships for the wrong reasons. They’re not trying to share their lives. Someone instead, they’re trying to fill a void in their lives, often created by a past relationship, but it’s not your partner’s responsibility to make you feel complete.
If you’re looking for a girlfriend, ask yourself this simple question. Am I excited about sharing my life with someone or am I just afraid of being alone? If you’re afraid of being single? Hey that’s okay. Hey, it’s a natural feeling that everyone experiences at some point in their lives, but the next step for you.
To not find a girlfriend. Instead, you need to figure out why you’re afraid to be alone, because the sooner you address those fears, the healthier your future relationships will be.
5. Rebound Relationships
When a relationship ends, many people rush into new relationships. A bad habit called rebounding.
Rebounding is problematic for several reasons. Most of the time you’re starting a new relationship before you can grieve the relationship you lost. In other words, you’re getting rid of one partner and replacing them with another. Not only is it inconsiderate, but rebounding can do serious damage to your mental health, as painful as it is to move on.
After a breakup, it’s important to take time and space for yourself. You need that freedom to rediscover who you. Realign your priorities and figure out what you really want. If you only want a girlfriend to help you get over your ex a rebound relationship is not a healthy solution. Dating someone new will not erase the grief you feel, or the feelings you’re holding onto.
Instead, it will repress those feelings, making it even more difficult for you to move on. So if you still have feelings for your ex stay single because rebound relationships almost always end in disaster.
6. Status Chasing
Many guys want girlfriends, not because they’re interested in sharing their lives, but because they want to reap the social benefits, a relationship brings status.
Chasing is never a good reason to enter a relationship. In fact status chasing is a common sign of insecurity and emotional immaturity. In other words, you’re allowing other people’s opinions to dictate your decisions instead of acting on what you really want. And if that’s not enough status chasing is also cruel to your partner. If you aren’t emotionally invested in a relationship, you may end up hurting someone who was looking for a genuine connection. So don’t use a girlfriend to….continue reading
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